I had hoped that I wouldn't be forced to take up the story of Terri Schiavo since everyone else is blasting the story from the rooftops and debating the issue at work, in the home, on TV and everywhere else for that matter.
I won't bore you with the details, the accusations, and the emotional context of the story. Instead I want to take this opportunity to talk about the whole circus economy the media has built around this tragic story.
It all comes down to this. These people are not interested in the fate of Terri, nor are they interested in the pain of the family of the afflicted woman. To the media, this is another story that grabs the attention of the public and puts them in front of the TV, standing at the News Stand or sitting in the car listening to Talk Radio hosts give us their opinions on why Bush was right to sign Terri's act or why he was wrong.
It's all about ratings and thus, money.
Terri Schiavo should be allowed to die. Is starving her off the best way to do that? No, but we don't allow anything else. I understand that the family is hurting. I can't imagine ANYTHING harder than seeing a loved one in the state that this young woman has been for the last 15 years. I've lost loved ones in my time on this planet and I've been fortunate to have seen them all go suddenly and not have to live a nightmare like the family of this woman has been subjected to.
I had to make a decision, with my mother, in regards to the life of my Great Grandmother on my birthday last September. She had come down with pneumonia over night and the sickness and her age combined to shut down her kidneys. We were asked, given my great grandmother's age, if we wanted the hospital to employ what they call Heroic efforts to revive her should she pass or take a sudden turn for the worse. We discussed it and we decided that not only would she not have wanted us to put her through the remainder of her life hooked up to machines but that we would leave it to her and her god.
That night, I held my great Grandmother's hand and told her I loved her. I watched her fight with the nurses over the oxygen mask (she refused to let them put it on telling them she didn't need it). I Heard her say her goodbyes and I watched her go to sleep.
Later that night, she passed on. She left this world the way she lived in it, on her terms, and I am glad it happened that way.
There has to come a point where the family stops being selfish about this sort of thing and begins to deal with the fact that someone important in their lives is no longer going to be with them. There has to come a point where what's right for everyone involved, including the stricken, outweigh the wants of the grieved. No matter how hard it hurts, we all have to let go. It's been fifteen years and it's time for Terri's family to let Terri go.
Maybe Terri told Michael that she would rather die than be subjected to just the sort of existence that she's been in for the last 15 years, maybe she didn't. How would the family know? With the absence of a Living Will, there are only two people on this planet that know if Michael and Terri had that conversation and of those two, only one can tell us which way that conversation went.
But, honestly, it's not important whether that conversation went one way or the other.
Michael has moved on, he's had no choice. His wife is gone. And really, who could blame anyone for doing so? He's seen, first hand, that his wife isn't with us anymore. If Terri had simply written out a Living Will, none of this would be happening today.
But after 15 years of court battles and false starts, the end is in sight.
After a Midnight Marathon session, The House and The Senate passed Terri's Law with not a single Democrat showing up to vote. The law basically gives the family a chance to argue their case once again, only in a Federal Court this time. George W. Bush rushed back to Washington to sign the legislation giving Terri one last shot at a continued existence that I would not wish on anyone, friend or foe.
Were the republicans wrong to do what they have done here? I don't think so. I applaud them for standing up for a single life, but the government has more pressing issues to worry about like fixing Social Security, winning the War on Terror, and growing the government to yet another record level. We didn't need an all-nighter on Capitol Hill for this.
I have no doubt that the Federal Judge hearing this argument will side with Michael and allow this woman to finally rest in peace. Is there anything that the family, or their attorney, can come up with that hasn't already be argued over and over again for the last 15 years? Is there anything that changed the report of the medical professionals who testified that Terri's brain had suffered enormous damage and continued to deteriorate over the years to the point where much, if not most, of her cerebral cortex has deteriorated away and been replaced by spinal fluid?
The Doctors that Terri's parents have hired do not dispute the physical damage done to her brain, but they claim there are new therapies that could improve her condition. Twice now, courts have found that such claims are without merit. Nothing that any doctor can do will every bring this woman back. There is no growing a new brain.
Is there anything that's changed since the medical professionals testified that, barring an act of God, Terri would never recover? No, there is nothing new.
The family is so unwilling to let go of Terri that they have personally attacked Michael, accused him at attempting to kill Terri, and accused him of wanting to see Terri dead. So adamant are they to continue this woman's existence that they are willing to do or say anything in the hopes that somehow, some way they can have their sister and daughter back. The problem is that they can never have her back.
In the end, Terri will be allowed to die, Michael will be allowed to move on, The family will grieve and the media will move on to the next "cash cow" story. Someday, Terri's family will realize that everything they have done to "help" Terri and to prolong her life may well have been the exact thing that she never wanted to endure. They may come to realize that it's better to let go out of love, than to desperately hold on out hope and fear of the loss. I grieve for Terri's family, I really do, but it's long past time to let go. You've done everything that could have been asked of you.
I wish that in cases like this, that they allowed something other than just pulling the tube and letting her starve.
There is something good to come of this horrific story, and that is that everyone will have Living Wills in their minds now, I know I plan on writing mine up soon, and I'd ask you to look at this story and see if you would want to go on in this kind of situation, because it could happen to you...
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